Adam McQueen - a.kreykrey

Additionally, they have now created a twitter account. 

https://twitter.com/BatVentress

The guy's e-mail address is visible in the first screenshot.

Wow.  That went south really fast.  Adam was rude, but you were too, especially when you called him an asswipe in that one picture. A better way of handling would have been to say, 'I'm not interested, please do not continue this discussion.' and block him if he persisted.  I would feel very uncomfortable dealing with either of you.  I don't think either side looks great in this situation.

On 2/28/2019 at 10:46 AM, Commendthemoon said:

Additionally, they have now created a twitter account. 

 

https://twitter.com/BatVentress

I instantly reported that account. Thus guy is really a -not going to list names but has a few in my mind- for doing this and outright going Jackal and Mister Hyde when their attempts to steal this lovely girl went no where. You have every right to do a DCMA if they steal her.

Also those death threats and overall threara in general are just SUPER uncalled for. Could you also report him and press legal charges since he traced down your email somehow and was harrassing you?

19 hours ago, Mortymaxwell said:

Wow.  That went south really fast.  Adam was rude, but you were too, especially when you called him an asswipe in that one picture. A better way of handling would have been to say, 'I'm not interested, please do not continue this discussion.' and block him if he persisted.  I would feel very uncomfortable dealing with either of you.  I don't think either side looks great in this situation.

If this were a business transaction, I'd agree. But having someone message you out of nowhere when you don't publicly post your email anywhere (already creepy) asking you to hand over your character, and then when you refuse telling you to "kill yourself fa***t" does not, in my books, warrant any kind of civility from you. Would simply blocking them the first moment they got hostile been a better way of handling it? Yes, I agree actually! Does it in any way undermine the OP for calling someone a fairly tame insult after being told to go kill himself followed up by an actual slur?

Man, I dunno, to each their own I guess, and if that's your feelings that's your feelings. But I certainly wouldn't feel uncomfortable dealing with OP over that. I'd have said a lot worse than "asswipe" if someone called me by a slur and told me to kill myself (over a pony OC).

Also, just a general thing, opening with "I don't care what people think of you" is already pretty dang loaded, looked kinda like he was softballing a threat about using your reputation against you right from the get go, OP. Sucks you had to deal with this!

On 3/2/2019 at 10:20 AM, Mortymaxwell said:

Wow.  That went south really fast.  Adam was rude, but you were too, especially when you called him an asswipe in that one picture. A better way of handling would have been to say, 'I'm not interested, please do not continue this discussion.' and block him if he persisted.  I would feel very uncomfortable dealing with either of you.  I don't think either side looks great in this situation.

I  can understand how this looks, though I'm not asking anyone to deal with me. It wasn't an interaction I wanted, one I asked for, or even one I expected. 

I was raised to believe words are just words, it's people that give them power. It definitely comes across as abrasive and asshole-ish behavior. I curse like a sailor, my whole family does. This is in no way excuses, just insight. In the moment I don't see what I say as particularly bothersome because it doesn't bother me at all if someone was saying it to me.

Everything he said to me was nothing that particularly threatened me or scared me, honestly I couldn't have cared less what he had said. If he had remained civil, I would have as well... but he didn't. IMO the verb is accurate. Appropriate? Probably not, but at this point we're arguing word schematics in a completely unwanted interaction where someone isn't getting his way so he just steals the character because my answer was no.

I believe any attempt at being polite or kind to this person would have ended the same way, he would have continued on with character theft. The road I took to get there when interacting with him just probably wasn't the best, but it was much tamer than what could have been said or what he said himself. 

10 hours ago, Luna996 said:

I instantly reported that account. Thus guy is really a -not going to list names but has a few in my mind- for doing this and outright going Jackal and Mister Hyde when their attempts to steal this lovely girl went no where. You have every right to do a DCMA if they steal her.

Also those death threats and overall threara in general are just SUPER uncalled for. Could you also report him and press legal charges since he traced down your email somehow and was harrassing you?

Judging from experience in my area when my wife was being harassed by someone online in a much worse way than what's happened to me as well as my time in the EMS field, there's probably nothing that would be done. Nothing the guy is saying is threatening to my safety and in the most plausible likelihood he probably messaged an artist I had commissioned at some point for my contact email as at one point I was very open to collabs, but this was years ago. On the same token he very well could be an artist I previously commissioned, it's the only things that makes sense in my mind as to how he has an email I don't really use. 

In short, what would probably happen is I'd call my local sheriff's non-emergency line, have to leave a voicemail message, and never get a follow-up call as I have absolutely no idea who this guy is or where he lives. Kinda sucks, but my county just isn't equipped to deal with this kind of thing.