I actually think the gender thing is possible. Wasn't this the suit maker who went on a rant on Twitter about there only being 2 genders? I have them blocked, so I'm assuming this is the case.
Either way, it doesn't matter. They shouldn't have used the money if they hadn't started on the project - and if they bought the fur and other stuff already, they should have refunded what they had left, then paid back the rest. I will never understand artist using money that isn't technically theirs yet, unless they know 100% positive they are going to get the art out. Personally, if I was still doing art, I would NOT use the money until the project was done sans materials.