Rionquosue

14 hours ago, Bourbon said:

This caution definitely doesn't look good on the customer. I have menstrual cramps that are the same strength as labor contractions, it's not uncommon for me to be offline or unresponsive to commission business during my periods because of it. It can be debilitating and isn't something the artist used just to get your sympathy. As someone else said, it's no different than someone being sick with a flu and not being around for a few days. 

On top of that, demanding they respond to you and then filing a chargeback on them within a day for a full refund (when you got your art and the changes you wanted at that point were small with just a mild difference in sizing) is a huge strike against you.

Also, like it or not, the artist has every right to warn their friends and fellow artists about your behavior towards them. I definitely wouldn't want to work with someone who filed a dispute because of a minor edit not being done immediately. Should they have posted a public journal? No, probably not. It's never a good look when an artist vents about their clients in a public place. But that doesn't mean they were unjustified, nor does it make it slander/libel. 

There was some major external factors that lead to my aggression under these circumstances. To put it simply there was trashtalk and mention of intentionally ignoring me.

While I am certainly not belittling how discomforting cramps can be, it was the combination of silence + behind curtains talk that lead me to decide to take these actions.

And, as mentioned at the start of this article and in comments, I am happy with the product and the only reason this article was submitted was due to them making a journal to publicly deface me. You are free to draw your own conclusions from what has transpired.

I didn't actually put much thought into the refund amount - admittedly I do feel guilt for that now. I was quite frustrated at the time.

The reason I call it slander is due to the nature of it. There was an active attempt to push my name towards some individuals and a good deal of her throwing it around in her telegram and to my knowledge discord channels as well. This was going on to a mild degree about her annoyance at having to make changes and after the initial email with messages saying I was blackmailing her, and a few other more minor statements/insults such as calling me an asshole.

And, as the bottom of that journal cited, she did say that if people asked her for my name it would be provided. She has since deleted the journal it appears, though. I would say that's to her credit.

In this case it wasn't a 4 hour delay, it was around 26 hours total along with the posting and some external factors that lead to my being aggressive in this case. 

I don't have hard feelings about it, and honestly if not for the journals and attempts to slander me this wouldn't have been submitted. This is me putting the full story out on a public post so people can form their own decisions on the matter. 

There were some external factors in play here that I was asked not to include in the submission. If you would like to know about them, contact me privately. But rest assured that this is not a common practice of mine, in over 100 pieces commissioned this is the only time I've ever opened a paypal dispute.

I do plan to add in that specific detail shot. Under most circumstances I wouldn't be bothered much, but given the nature of this commission and the treatment I had received I did in this case. 

Either way I do see a need to further clarify it and will be adding that to my ref sheet.